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    CLASH,无奈的交错

           《CLASH》一片的开头,是这么一段话:It's the sense of touch, any real city, you walk, you brush past people, people bump into you, in L.A, no one touches you, we are always behind metal and glasses, I think we miss that touch so much that we clash into each other just so we can feel something,You don't think that's ture?
    在现代都市,例如洛杉矶,或者其他地方例如广州,周围的繁华让我们习惯了靠近在金属和玻璃的旁边,然而却少了人与人之间最基本的接触,所以在潜意识里人们不断地去利用强烈的行为去让自己和对方去感觉到一些东西。其实这是个很基本的诉求和欲望,就像小时候我们为了得到大人们的注意,非得想弄点事情出来不可这样。
           现在长大了,发现其实大家都非常完整地保持着这个诉求和欲望,当大家不能达成有效的沟通的时候,就只好将沟通诉诸于强烈的行为,甚至乎暴力等等,但是到最后大家才发现,其实行为发出者只是想表达一个简单的想法而已,但是却真的没有人想去理会过她或他。
    自从开了TABLE FUN,我就一直在琢磨人为什么会去夜场,去酒吧,去棋牌室,去卡拉OK甚至到现在去桌游吧,同时其实可能都是同一帮人,做同样的事情,只是场地不同了而已。我想,其实这就是所谓强烈的行为的其中之一的表现吧,一样的吵闹环境,一样的大吼大叫的自己,事实上并没有从根本上改变夜生活的模式,变的,只是去哪些地方的借口,也许是因为潮流,也许是因为新奇,也许是因为想发泄。
           看《CLASH》,我感觉最强烈的是“交错”的概念,其实整个影片之所以有震撼力,是因为里面的几个分支其实是连锁反应的,而这些连锁反应都是因为沟通得不到合理的回应而产生的强烈行为。现实生活中,这样的交错可以说是比比皆是,产生的连锁反应更加是像无数倒金字塔一样不断地堆积,迟有一天会不受重负全面崩塌。
           可是我们却无力改变这一现实,而且偏偏要在这条道路上越走越深,无奈的交错,在我们的身边和身上越来越多,所谓生活的压力,也就不过如是了。
    从把事情尽量想简单的思维上来讲,其实归根到底,就是做好沟通,给出多点的包容心,给出多点的耐心,对自己想沟通的对象尽量尝试更加多样和直接的方式去让对方理解自己,不要再因为所谓的矜持,或者甚至是思维惰性去让自己停留在一个脚印上,不是每个人都能跑得很快的,过了很可能就再也追不回来。
           也许有人会说,沟通要顾及各方面的利益,也许有人会说,沟通的主要手段“口才”天生不好,但是我却认为:you can never have it all, 人生本身就是充满了是非题和单项选择题,为了某些可能一辈子就一次的事物,放弃一些完全可以再找回来的东西是应该的。
    不过,其实就算是这么说,人总是还要直面这些交错的,逃避也不是从根本上解决这些问题的办法。无奈的交错,果然是要快刀砍乱麻,干脆利落才能解决的吧。

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    红鹃 黄wrote:
    我回头也把这片子看看
    Aug. 19

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